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EIGHT THINGS THIS BOOK WILL HELP YOU ACHIEVE 1.Get out of a mental rut,think new thoughts,acquire new visions,discover new ambitions.2.Make friends quickly and easily.3.Increase your popularity.4.Win people to your way of thinking.5.Increase your influence,your prestige,your ability to get things done.6.Handle complaints,avoid arguments,keep your human contacts smooth and pleasant.7.Become a better speaker,a more entertaining conversationalist.8.Arouse enthusiasm among your associates.This book has done all these things for more than ten million readers in thirty-six languages.This Book Is Dedicated to a Man Who Doesnt Need to Read It:-My Cherished Friend HOMER CROY HOW TO Win Friends AND Influence People REVISED EDITION Dale Carnegie Editorial Consultant:Dorothy Carnegie Editorial Assistance:Arthur R.Pell,Ph.D.SIMON AND SCHUSTER NEW YORK Copyright 1936 by Dale Carnegie,copyright renewed 1964 by Donna Dale Carnegie and Dorothy Carnegie Revised Edition copyright 1981 by Donna Dale Carnegie and Dorothy Carnegie All rights reserved including the right of reproduction in whole or in part in any form Published by Simon and Schuster A Division of Gulf&Western Corporation Simon&Schuster Building Rockefeller Center 1230 Avenue of the Americas New York,New York 10020 SIMON AND SCHUSTER and colophon are trademarks of Simon&Schuster Designed by Stanley S.Drate Manufactured in the United States of America 17 19 20 18 Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data Carnegie,Dale,1888-1955.How to win friends and influence people.Includes index.1.Success.I.Title.BF637.S8C37 1981 158.1 80-28759 ISBN O-671-42517-X Preface to Revised Edition How to Win Friends and Influence People was first published in 1937 in an edition of only five thousand copies.Neither Dale Carnegie nor the publishers,Simon and Schuster,anticipated more than this modest sale.To their amazement,the book became an overnight sensation,and edition after edition rolled off the presses to keep up with the increasing public demand.Now to Win Friends and InfEuence People took its place in publishing history as one of the all-time international best-sellers.It touched a nerve and filled a human need that was more than a faddish phenomenon of post-Depression days,as evidenced by its continued and uninterrupted sales into the eighties,almost half a century later.Dale Carnegie used to say that it was easier to make a million dollars than to put a phrase into the English language.How to Win Friends and Influence People became such a phrase,quoted,paraphrased,parodied,used in innumerable contexts from political cartoon to novels.The book itself was translated into almost every known written language.Each generation has discovered it anew and has found it relevant.Which brings us to the logical question:Why revise a book that has proven and continues to prove its vigorous and universal appeal?Why tamper with success?To answer that,we must realize that Dale Carnegie himself was a tireless reviser of his own work during his lifetime.How to Win Friends and Influence People was written to be used as a textbook for his courses in Effective Speaking and Human Relations and is still used in those courses today.Until his death in 1955 he constantly improved and revised the course itself to make it applicable to the evolving needs of an every-growing public.No one was more sensitive to the changing currents of present-day life than Dale Carnegie.He constantly improved and refined his methods of teaching;he updated his book on Effective Speaking several times.Had he lived longer,he himself would have revised How to Win Friends and Influence People to better reflect the changes that have taken place in the world since the thirties.Many of the names of prominent people in the book,well known at the time of first publication,are no longer recognized by many of todays readers.Certain examples and phrases seem as quaint and dated in our social climate as those in a Victorian novel.The important message and overall impact of the book is weakened to that extent.Our purpose,therefore,in this revision is to clarify and strengthen the book for a modern reader without tampering with the content.We have not“changed”How to Win Friends and Influence People except to make a few excisions and add a few more contemporary examples.The brash,breezy Carnegie style is intact-even the thirties slang is still there.Dale Carnegie wrote as he spoke,in an intensively exuberant,colloquial,conversational manner.So his voice still speaks as forcefully as ever,in the book and in his work.Thousands of people all over the world are being trained in Carnegie courses in increasing numbers each year.And other thousands are reading and studying How to Win Friends and lnfluence People and being inspired to use its principles to better their lives.To all of them,we offer this revision in the spirit of the honing and polishing of a finely made tool.Dorothy Carnegie (Mrs.Dale Carnegie)How This Book Was Written-And Why by Dale Carnegie During the first thirty-five years of the twentieth century,the publishing houses of America printed more than a fifth of a million different books.Most of them were deadly dull,and many were financial failures.“Many,”did I say?The president of one of the largest publishing houses in the world confessed to me that his company,after seventy-five years of publishing experience,still lost money on seven out of every eight books it published.Why,then,did I have the temerity to write another book?And,after I had written it,why should you bother to read it?Fair questions,both;and Ill try to answer them.I have,since 1912,been conducting educational courses for business and professional men and women in New York.At first,I conducted courses in public speaking only-courses designed to train adults,by actual experience,to think on their feet and express their ideas with more clarity,more effectiveness and more poise,both in business interviews and before groups.But gradually,as the seasons passed,I realized that as sorely as these adults needed training in effective speaking,they needed still more training in the fine art of getting along with people in everyday business and social contacts.I also gradually realized that I was sorely in need of such training myself.As I look back across the years,I am appalled at my own frequent lack of finesse and understanding.How I wish a book such as this had been placed in my hands twenty years ago!What a priceless boon it would have been.Dealing with people is probably the biggest problem you face,especially if you are in business.Yes,and that is also true if you are a housewife,architect or engineer.Research done a few years ago under the auspices of the Carnegie Foundation for the Advancement of Teaching uncovered a most important and significant fact-a fact later confirmed by additional studies made at the Carnegie Institute of Technology.These investigations revealed that even in such technical lines as engineering,about 15 percent of ones financial success is due to ones technical knowledge and about 85 percent is due to skill in human engineering-to personality and the ability to lead people.For many years,I conducted courses each season at the Engineers Club of Philadelphia,and also courses for the New York Chapter of the American Institute of Electrical Engineers.A total of probably more than fifteen hundred engineers have passed through my classes.They came to me because they had finally realized,after years of observation and experience,that the highest-paid personnel in engineering are frequently not those who know the most about engineering.One can for example,hire mere technical ability in engineering,accountancy,architecture or any other profession at nominal salaries.But the person who has technical knowledge plus the ability to express ideas,to assume leadership,and to arouse enthusiasm among people-that person is headed for higher earning power.In the heyday of his activity,John D.Rockefeller said that“the ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee.”“And I will pay more for that ability,”said John D.,“than for any other under the sun.”Wouldnt you suppose that every college in the land would conduct courses to develop the highest-priced ability under the sun?But if there is just one practical,common-sense course of that kind given for adults in even one college in the land,it has escaped my attention up to the present writing.The University of Chicago and the United Y.M.C.A.Schools conducted a survey to determine what adults want to study.That survey cost$25,000 and took two years.The last part of the survey was made in Meriden,Connecticut.It had been chosen as a typical American town.Every adult in Meriden was interviewed and requested to answer 156 questions-questions such as“What is your business or profession?Your education?How do you spend your spare time?What is your income?Your hobbies?Your ambitions?Your problems?What subjects are you most interested in studying?”And so on.That survey revealed that health is the prime interest of adults and that their second interest is people;how to understand and get along with people;how to make people like you;and how to win others to your way of thinking.So the committee conducting this survey resolved to conduct such a course for adults in Meriden.They searched diligently for a practical textbook on the subject and found-not one.Finally they approached one of the worlds outstanding authorities on adult education and asked him if he knew of any book that met the needs of this group.“No,”he replied,I know what those adults want.But the book they need has never been written.”I knew from experience that this statement was true,for I myself had been searching for years to discover a practical,working handbook on human relations.Since no such book existed,I have tried to write one for use in my own courses.And here it is.I hope you like it.In preparation for this book,I read everything that I could find on the subject-everything from newspaper columns,magazine articles,records of the family courts,the writings of the old philosophers and the new psychologists.In addition,I hired a trained researcher to spend one and a half years in various libraries reading everything I had missed,plowing through erudite tomes on psychology,poring over hundreds of magazine articles,searching through countless biographies,trying to ascertain how the great leaders of all ages had dealt with people.We read their biographies,We read the life stories of all great leaders from Julius Caesar to Thomas Edison.I recall that we read over one hundred biographies of Theodore Roosevelt alone.We were determined to spare no time,no expense,to discover every practical idea that anyone had ever used throughout the ages for winning friends and influencing people.I personally interviewed scores of successful people,some of them world-famous-inventors like Marconi and Edison;political leaders like Franklin D.Roosevelt and James Farley;business leaders like Owen D.Young;movie stars like Clark Gable and Mary Pickford;and explorers like Martin Johnson-and tried to discover the techniques they used in human relations.From all this material,I prepared a short talk.I called it“How to Win Friends and Influence People.”I say“short.”It was short in the beginning,but it soon expanded to a lecture that consumed one hour and thirty minutes.For years,I gave this talk each season to the adults in the Carnegie Institute courses in New York.I gave the talk and urged the listeners to go out and test it in their business and social contacts,and then come back to class and speak about their experiences and the results they had achieved.What an interesting assignment!These men and women,hungry for self-improvement,were fascinated by the idea of working in a new kind of laboratory-the first and only laboratory of human relationships for adults that had ever existed.This book wasnt written in the usual sense of the word.It grew as a child grows.It grew and developed out of that laboratory,out of the experiences of thousands of adults.Years ago,we started with a set of rules printed on a card no larger than a postcard.The next season we printed a larger card,then a leaflet,then a series of booklets,each one expanding in size and scope.After fifteen years of experiment and research came this book.The rules we have set down here are not mere theories or guesswork.They work like magic.Incredible as it sounds,I have seen the application of these principles literally revolutionize the lives of many people.To illustrate:A man with 314 employees joined one of these courses.For years,he had driven and criticized and condemned his employees without stint or discretion.Kindness,words of appreciation and encouragement were alien to his lips.After studying the principles discussed in this book,this employer sharply altered his philosophy of life.His organization is now inspired with a new loyalty,a new enthusiasm,a new spirit of team-work.Three hundred and fourteen enemies have been turned into 314 friends.As he proudly said in a speech before the class:“When I used to walk through my establishment,no one greeted me.My employees actually looked the other way when they saw me approaching.But now they are all my friends and even the janitor calls me by my first name.”This employer gained more profit,more leisure and-what is infinitely more important-he found far more happiness in his business and in his home.Countless numbers of salespeople have sharply increased their sales by the use of these principles.Many have opened up new accounts-accounts that they had formerly solicited in vain.Executives have been given increased authority,increased pay.One executive reported a large increase in salary because he applied these truths.Another,an executive in the Philadelphia Gas Works Company,was slated for demotion when he was sixty-five because of his belligerence,because of his inability to lead people skillfully.This training not only saved him from the demotion but brought him a promotion with increased pay.On innumerable occasions,spouses attending the banquet given at the end of the course have told me that their homes have been much happier since their husbands or wives started this training.People are frequently astonished at the new results they achieve.It all seems like magic.In some cases,in their enthusiasm,they have telephoned me at my home on Sundays because they couldnt wait forty-eight hours to report their achievements at the regular session of the course.One man was so stirred by a talk on these principles that he sat far into the night discussing them with other members of the class.At three oclock in the morning,the others went home.But he was so shaken by a realization of his own mistakes,so inspired by the vista of a new and richer world opening before him,that he was unable to sleep.He didnt sleep that night or the next da