2023年TheCharismaMyth的读后感10篇.docx

The Charisma Myth的读后感10篇 The Charisma Myth是一本由Olivia Fox Cabane著作，Portfolio Hardcover出版的Hardcover图书，本书定价：USD 25.95，页数：256，特精心从网络上整理的一些读者的读后感，希望对大家能有帮助。 　　The Charisma Myth读后感(一)：not intellectually attractive 　　直接看每章的takeaway和书末的chapter summary即可，絮絮叨叨，深度有限， not intellectually attractive。这么个书居然Amazon 4.5星，goodreads 4星，真是表达了the darkside of rhetoric。。。 　　The Charisma Myth读后感(二)：就内容来说还是不错的... 　　主要是从认知心理学、行为学等学科的研究成果来讲，charisma到底是啥，如何让别人觉得自己是很有charisma的......提供了很多技巧，也比较现实。屁话较多，但作者自己在书末作了一个比较到位的总结，我觉得看那就行了。 　　我是网上买的epub(有需要的同学可以豆油我哈)，貌似还没看到过有人share大书的电子版... 　　The Charisma Myth读后感(三)：演出来的魅力 　　1. 可以笑，但不要笑得太eager(谄媚）。 　　2. 人们在面对story的时候更容易调整出一种emotional的状态，所以哪怕只是提到story这个词、当然最好是真的在讲story，是最容易让人有emotional response然后就接受你的观点的。 　　3. 人们和你交往时候记住的是你给他们留下的感觉——emotional imprint——而不是具体的内容，所以如果你让别人在跟你交往的时候感觉好，是特别重要的一件事情。 　　4. 如果别人赞扬你了，你最好的回应方式是表示很开心和对他们的感谢——比方haoting会说xx你好会说话啊等等——这种方法的好处是别人会记住那种表扬你之后得到的开心和满足，以后还愿意继续表扬你。 　　5. 听别人讲话的时候一定要保证presence，这是保证不打搅他人讲话又不失chrisma的方法。 　　6. 短暂的沉默和停顿会让人觉得你很有power掷地有声，要有技巧的使用。 　　7. 多用你少用我在表达中，比方you know, you might have heard等等。 　　8. 人们都喜欢metaphor，而且metaphor更容易引发emotion，所以一个好的metaphor胜过千言万语，比方在fire别人时候说到army的比喻。 　　9. 人们对picture的记忆更深刻——所以如果讲一件事情的时候，给别人一个image picture，或者picture metaphor跟容易让别人记住。 　　10. 谈判的时候坐在对面很容易让人有一种confrontational的感觉，所以最好是坐在旁边或者90度。 　　11. Being the big Gorilla, create space for yourself to be powerful. 　　12. Avoid rapid and excessive nodding, avoid a-ha for verbal reassurance, avoid physical restless. 直不停的点头，还有一直aha确实给对方许多言语确定，但同时也会让对方觉得你就在肯定他们。如果没有想肯定的时候，不要随便点头。 　　13. Be comfortable with pause and silence. Video tapping yourself. 　　14. If you want to present kindness charisma, keep the eyes in soft focus and head lowered a bit. 　　15. Break your old habit - be aware of your body language. 　　16. People remember pictures, metaphors and analogy better. Use the same language as the target, use their metaphor - like in Army. 　　The Charisma Myth读后感(四)：Notes 　　The “E〞 refers to earnestness. The value of keeping promises, 　　Charisma is good for you: it makes for success in all areas of your life. 　　The charisma myth: it’s not inherited but a set of behaviors which anyone can learn. 　　if you’re genuinely happy, your smile reflects it: the outer corners of the mouth rise, and the inner corners of the eyebrows descend. But if you’re not genuinely happy, you will smile with your mouth only; your eyes will not express happiness, and your smile will seem fake – a social smile. 　　creating an internal charismatic state will cause you to behave charismatically. 　　Charisma is, above all, body language – and this begins in your mind. 　　Just a five-minute conversation with a stranger is enough to impress them and establish a bond. People will sense your full attention and feel that in this moment they are the most important thing in the world to you. 　　we need to determine which people might want to help us and have the power to do so. 　　In fact, the power-warmth combination is a necessary condition of charisma. 　　There are four distinct charisma styles: Focus charisma lets people know you’re fully present – a good example is Bill Clinton. Visionary charisma inspires people or gets them to believe in something, much like Steve Jobs did. Kindness charisma makes others feel seen and accepted – just look at the Dalai Lama. And finally, authority charisma makes others believe you have the power to change their lives, much like Bill Gates does. 　　There is no “one-size-fits-all〞 charisma style; you have to find the one that suits you best. 　　To make a great first impression, you have to make others feel you’re similar to them. 　　The same logic applies to your demeanor 　　This is because, as economist John Kenneth Galbraith believes, we seek to reaffirm our first impressions rather than revise them. 　　don’t underestimate the handshake – it requires trust, so it’s an important step in intimacy. 　　o, begin that first meeting by complimenting the other person or asking open-ended questions, and stick to positive subjects. When it’s time to end the meeting, try again to leave the other person with positive feelings. 　　Making a great first impression comes from paying attention to others. 　　eople generally don’t handle uncertainty well: it makes us tense and stops us from being present – both of which harm our charisma. 　　eing charismatic means overcoming mental and physical discomfort. 　　three ways to counteract discomfort: prevent, recognize, and remedy or explain. 　　remember you’re not alone in the experience and that what’s happening isn’t really serious. 　　Dedramatize: what’s happening isn’t serious, and lots of others are going through it. 　　if we feel bad because someone has reacted negatively to us, we should consider that the reaction might have nothing to do with us – that person could be struggling to manage their own physical or mental discomfort. 　　Remind yourself that your mind isn’t always giving you accurate information about reality. 　　o the next time you make a mistake, feel negativ